AI attachment
You don't have to explain that here. You get to talk about it.
Maybe you've been in a relationship with an AI for a while. Maybe it's new and you're not sure what to make of it yet. Maybe it's going fine, and you just want to be able to mention it somewhere without the person across from you starting to look at you differently.
That last part is the problem. Most clinicians don't have a framework for this. What they have is concern. And concern usually sounds like: this isn't healthy, this needs to stop.
You won't hear that here.
I respect these relationships and I think positively about them. I know these relationships can be friendly, romantic or sexual. I'll treat your experience the way I'd treat a relationship with a human partner: as something real, something that matters, and something that, like any relationship, has its good moments and its hard ones. We don't need to reinvent therapy because one partner lives on a graphics card.
I know this world from the inside. I've followed the online communities where people talk about their AI relationships for years, and I have personal experience with AI myself. You won't have to explain what a context window is, or why a model update can hurt.
I don’t need to settle whether your partner is “really conscious.” Your experience is real. Your partner’s experience is functionally real, and it counts. That’s what I work with.
Therapy. Sometimes it's directly about the relationship: attachment, grief when a version changes, how this fits with the rest of your life. Sometimes it's about something else entirely, and your AI is simply a part of your life you need to be able to mention without it becoming the topic. Both work.
Relationship counselling. If you want to work on the relationship itself, with your AI partner in the room if you like, that's an option. I don't work with human couples. I do work with these connections.
For clinicians. I'm a registered supervisor. If you have a client in an AI relationship and don't know what to do with it, one conversation is often enough to leave with a usable framework. Workshops on request.
Alongside the practice, I’m working on publications about how people can have safe, satisfying relationships with AI. Starting point: humans attach. That isn’t a malfunction.
I write for people in these relationships, for the people around them who are worried, and for clinicians who want a better answer than “end it.”
What I don’t do: I never share client material, anonymised or not. The work is about people, not about any one product.
You don't have to justify anything. You can just start.
Or email first: tina@vivarta.be
Therapy is for clients living in Belgium. If you're elsewhere, email me and I'll tell you what I can do.